The Secret

ΜΕΡΟΣ ΔΕΥΤΕΡΟ

Το μυστικό του πλουτισμού...

Για να προσελκύσετε χρήματα, εστιάστε στον πλούτο. Είναι αδύνατο να φέρετε περισσότερα χρήματα στη ζωή σας εστιάζοντας στην έλλειψή τους.
Θα σας βοηθήσει να χρησιμοποιήσετε τη φαντασία σας και να προσποιηθείτε ότι έχετε ήδη αποκτήσει τα χρήματα που θέλετε. Παίξτε τους πλούσιους και θα νιώσετε καλύτερα σε σχέση με τα χρήματα. Καθώς εσείς θα νιώθετε καλύτερα, εκείνα θα εμφανίζονται με ολοένα μεγαλύτερη συχνότητα στη ζωή σας.
Τα συναισθήματα επιτυχίας είναι ο ταχύτερος δρόμος για την απόκτηση χρημάτων.
Βάλτε το σκοπό να κοιτάζετε αυτά που επιθυμείτε και να λέτε: "Έχω τη δυνατότητα να το αποκτήσω. Μπορώ να το αγοράσω." Έτσι, θα μετατοπίσετε τον τρόπο σκέψης σας και θα νιώσετε καλύτερα ως προς το θέμα των χρημάτων.
Δώστε χρήματα για να τα φέρετε πολλάπλασιασμένα στη ζωή σας. Όταν είστε γενναιόδωροι με τα χρήματά σας και αισθάνεστε όμορφα να τα μοιράζεστε, ουσιαστικά λέτε: "Τα χρήματα μου περισσεύουν."
Απεικονίστε νοερά επιταγές στο γραμματοκιβώτιό σας.
Ρυθμίστε τη ζυγαριά των σκέψεών σας ώστε να γέρνει προς τον πλούτο. Σκεφτείτε τον πλούτο.

Το μυστικό των σχέσεων...

Όταν επιχειρείτε να προσελκύσετε μία σχέση σιγουρευτείτε ότι οι σκέψεις, οι πράξεις σας και το περιβάλλον σας δεν αντιφάσκουν με τις επιθυμίες σας.
Η δουλειά σας είναι ο εαυτό σας. Αν δεν νιώσετε πρώτα εσείς γεμάτοι, δεν έχετε τίποτα να δώσετε σε κανέναν.
Δείξτε στον εαυτό σας αγάπη και σεβασμό, και θα προσελκύσετε κοντά σας ανθρώπους που θα σαε δείχνουν αγάπη και σεβασμό.
Όταν νιώθετε άσχημα για τον εαυτό σας, εμποδίζετε την αγάπη και προσελκύετε στο πολλαπλάσιο ανθρώπους και καταστάσεις που θα συνεχίσουν να σας κάνουν να νιώθετε άσχημα για τον εαυτό σας.
Εστιάστε στα προτερήματά σας και ο νόμος της έλξης θα σας τα φανερώσει επαυξημένα.
Για να κάνετε τις σχέσεις σας λειτουργικές, εστιάστε σε αυτά που εκτιμάτε στους άλλους, όχι στα παράπονα που έχετε απ' αυτούς. Αν επικεντρωθείτε στα προτερήματά τους, αυτά θα σας επιστραφούν πολλαπλασιασμένα.

Το μυστικό της υγείας...

Η επίδραση των ψευδοφαρμάκων είναι ένα παράδειγμα της εφαρμογής του νόμου της έλξης. Όταν ο ασθενής πιστεύει πραγματικά ότι το ψευδοφάρμακο θα τον θεραπεύσει, αποκτά αυτό που πιστεύει και θεραπεύεται.
Η επικέντρωση στην τέλεια υγεία, είναι κάτι που όλοι μπορούμε να κάνουμε, ό,τι κι αν συμβαίνει γύρω μας.
Το γέλιο ελκύει τη χαρά, απελευθερώνει τον αρνητισμό και οδηγεί σε θαυματουργές ιάσεις.
Η ασθένεια φυλακίζεται στο σ΄ψμα μέσψ της σκέψης, της παρατήρησης των συμπτωμάτων της, της προσοχής που δίνουμε σ' αυτή. Αν δεν αισθάνεστε ιδιαίτερα καλά, μη μιλάτε γι' αυτό- εκτός κι αν θέλετε να αισθανθείτε χειρότερα. Αν ακούτε ανθρώπους να μιλούν για την αρρώστεια τους, με αυτή σας την πράξη ενισχύετε την ασθένειά τους, προσθέτοντάς της ενέργεια. Γυρίστε τη συζήτηση σε ευχάριστα θέματα, και στείλτε με τη σκέψη σας τη θετική σας ενέργεια, εστιάζοντας δυναμικά στη θεραπεία αυτών των ανθρώπων.
Οι αντιλήψεις για τα γηρατειά είναι κατασκεύασμα του μυαλού μας. Διώξτε λοιπόν αυτές τις σκέψεις από τη συνείδησή σας. Εστιάστε στην υγεία και στην αιώνια νεότητα.
Πάψτε να δίνετε προσοχή στα μηνύματα της κοινωνίας για την ασθένεια και τα γηρατειά. Τα αρνητικά μηνύματα δε σας ωφελούν.

Το μυστικό του κόσμου...

Προσελκύετε αυτό το οποίο αντιμάχεστε, γιατί εξαιτίας της συναισθηματικής σας φόρτισης, εστιάζετε δυναμικά πάνω του. Αν θέλετε να συμβάλλετε στην όποια αλλαγή, στραφείτε μέσα σας και εκπέμψτε ένα νέο σήμα μέσω των σκέψεων και των συναισθημάτων σας.
Δε μπορείτε να βοηθήσετε την ανθρωπότητα επικεντρώνοντας την προσοχή σας στα αρνητικά στοιχεία. Εστιάζοντας στα παγκόσμια αρνητικά γεγονότα, όχι μόνο τους προσθέτετε ενέργεια αλλά φέρνετε και περισσότερα αρνητικά δεδομένα στη δική σας ζωή.
Αντί να εστιάζετε στα παγκόσμια προβλήματα, επικεντρώστε την προσοχή σας και την ενέργειά σας στην εμπιστοσύνη, την αγάπη, την αφθονία, την εκπαίδευση και την ειρήνη.
Δε θα αντιμετωπίσουμε ποτέ έλλειψη αγαθών, διότι υπάρχουν υπεραρκετά για όλους. Η ζωή είναι προορισμένη για να είναι ζωή αφθονίας.
Έχετε την ικανότητα να αντλήσετε από το απεριόριστο απόθεμα του Σύμπαντος μέσω των σκέψεών σας και των συναισθημάτων σας και να μετατρέψετε αυτά τα αγαθά σε βίωμά σας.
Ευλογήστε τα πάντα στον κόσμο. Με την ευλογία, θα εξανεμίσετε τον αρνητισμό και τη διχόνοια και θα συντονιστείτε στην υψηλότερη συχνότητα της αγάπης.

Το μυστικό του εαυτού σας...

Τα πάντα είναι ενέργεια. Είστε ένας ενεργειακός μαγνήτης, άρα διά του ηλεκτρισμού ενεργοποιείτε τα πάντα προς εσάς και ενεργοποιείτε τον εαυτό σας προς οτιδήποτε επιθυμείτε.
Είστε ένα πνευματικό ον. Είστε ενέργεια και η ενέργεια δε μπορεί να δημιουργηθεί ή να καταστραφεί- μόνο να αλλάξει μορφή.
Άρα, η πραγματική σας ουσία υπήρχε πάντα και θα υπάρχει πάντα.
Το Σύμπαν γεννάται από τη σκέψη. Εϊμαστε οι δημιουργοί, όχι μόνο του πεπρωμένου μας αλλά και του Σύμπαντος.
Ένα απεριόριστο απόθεμα ιδεών βρίσκεται στη διάθεσή σας. Όλη η γνώση, οι ανακαλύψεις και οι εφευρέσεις ενυπάρχουν ως πιθανότητες στο Συμπαντικό Νου, περιμένοντας τον ανθρώπινο νου να τις αντλήσει. Κρατάτε τα πάντα στη συνείδησή σας.
Είμαστε όλοι συνδεδεμένοι και είμαστε όλοι Ένα.
Απελευθερωθείτε από τις δυσκολίες του παρελθόντος σας, τους πολιτισμικούς κώδικες και τις κοινωνικές πεποιθήσεις. Εσείς και μόνο εσείς μπορείτε να δημιουργήσετε μια ζωή αντάξιά σας.
Ένα τέχνασμα για να μορφοποιήσετε γρηγορότερα τις επιθυμίες σας είναι να δείτε αυτό που θέλετε ως αδιαμφισβήτητο γεγονός.
Η δύναμή σας βρίσκεται στις σκέψεις σας, φροντίστε λοιπόν να έχετε συναίσθηση των σκέψεών σας: Θυμηθείτε να θυμάστε.

Το μυστικό της Ζωής...

Είστε ελεύθεροι να γεμίοσετε το βιβλίο της ζωής σας με ό,τι θέλετε.
Το μόνο που πρέπει να κάνετε είναι να νιώσετε καλά τώρα.
Όσο περισσότερο χρησιμοποιείτε την εσώτερη δύναμή σας, τόσο περισσότερη δύναμη θα συγκεντρώνετε!
Αυτή είναι η κατάλληλη στιγμή για να αγκαλιάσετε το μεγαλείο του εαυτού σας!
Ζούμε σε μια ένδοξη εποχή. Καθώς απελευθερωνόμαστε από τις περιοριστικές σκέψεις, θα αρχίσουμε να αντιλαμβανόμαστε και να βιώνουμε το πραγματικό μεγαλείο της ανθρωπότητας, σε κάθε τομέα της δημιουργίας.
Κάντε αυτό που αγαπάτε. Αν δεν ξέρετε τι σας δίνει χαρά, αναρωτηθείτε: "Πού είναι η χαρά μου;" Καθώς αφοσιώνεστε στην αναζήτηση της, ποταμοί ολόκληροι χαράς θα σας κατακλύσουν, ακριβώς επειδή εσείς οι ίδιοι θα την ακτινοβολείτε.
Τλωρα που η γνώση του Μυστικού έγινε κτήμα σας, το πώς θα τη χρησιμοποιείσετε είναι δικό σας θέμα. Ό,τι κι αν διαλέξετε είναι σωστό. Η δύναμη είναι όλη δική σας.

The Secret

by Rhonda Byrna

ΜΕΡΟΣ ΠΡΩΤΟ

Το μυστικό αποκαλύπτεται...

Το μεγάλο μυστικό της ζωής είναι ο νόμος της έλξης.
Ο νόμος της έλξης ορίζει ότι τα όμοια έλκονται άρα όταν κάνετε μία σκέψη, προσελκύετε ταύτόχρονα κι άλλες όμοιές της.
Οι σκέψεις είναι μαγνητικές και οι σκέψεις έχουν η καθεμιά τη δική της συχνότητα. Καθώς τις πραγματοποιείτε, οι σκέψεις σας εκπέμπονται στο σύμπαν και προσελκύουν διά του μαγνητισμού όλα όσα βρίσκονται στην ίδια συχνότητα. Ό, τι εκπέμπεται επιστρέφει στην πηγή του, δηλαδή σε εσάς.
Σκεφτείτε τον εαυτό σας σαν ανθρώπινο αναμεταδότη ο οποίος εκπέμπει με τη σκέψη του σε μια σθγκεκριμένη συχνότητα. Αν επιθυμείτε να αλλάξετε κάτι στη ζωή σας, αλλάξτε συχνότητα αλλάζοντας τις σκέψεις σας.
Οι τωρινές σκέψεις σας δημιουργούν τη μελλοντική σας ζωή. Ό,τι σκέφτεστε πιο έντονα, αυτό στο οποίο εστιάζετε περισσότερο, αυτό θα υλοποιηθεί με τη μορφή της ζωής σας.
Οι σκέψεις σας γίνονται αντικείμενα.

Το μυστικό απλοποιείται...

Ο νόμος της έλξης είναι ένας φυσικός νόμος. Είναι τόσο αμερόληπτος όσο και ο νόμος της βαρύτητας.
Τίποτα δε μπορεί να παρεισφορήσει στα βιώματά σας αν δεν το καλέσετε μέσω επίμονων σκέψεων.
Για να μάθετε τι σκέφτεστε, αναρωτηθείται πώς αισθάνεστε. Τα συναισθήματα είναι πολύτιμα εργαλεία που μας ενημερώνουν άμεσα για το τι σκεφτόμαστε.
Είναι αδύνατο να αισθάνεστε άσχημα και παράλληλα να κάνετε καλές σκέψεις.
Οι σκέψεις σας καθορίζουν τη συχνότητα σας και τα συναισθήματά σας, σας ειδοποιούν άμεσα για τη συχνότητα στην οποία βρίσκεστε. Όταν νιώθετε άσχημα, βρίσκεστε στη συχνότητα που προσελκύει περισσότερα δεινά. Όταν νιώθετε καλά, προσελκύετε δυναμικά περισσότερα αγαθά.
Μετατροπείς του Μυστικού, όπως οι ευχάριστες αναμνήσεις, η φύση ή η αγαπημένη σας μουσική, μπορούν να αλλάξουν τη διάθεσή σας και να αλλάξουν αυτοστιγμεί τη συχνότητα σας.
Το αίσθημα της αγάπης είναι η υψηλότερη συχνότητα στην οποία μπορείτε να εκπέμψετε. Όσο περισσότερη αγάπη νιώθετε και εκπέμπετε, τόσο μεγαλύτερη δύναμη συγκεντρώνετε.

Πώς να εφαρμόσετε το μυστικό...

Όπως το Τζίνι του Αλαντίν, έτσι και ο νόμος της έλξης εκτελεί την κάθε διαταγή σας.
Η δημιουργική διαδικασία σας βοηθά να δημιουργήσετε αυτό που θέλετε με τρία απλά βήματα: ζητήστε, πιστέψτε, αποκτήστε.
Το να ζητήσετε από το Σύμπαν αυτό που θέλετε σας δίνει τη θαυμάσια ευκαιρία να ξεκαθαρίσετε μέσα σας τι θέλετε. Κάνοντάς το, το έχετε ήδη ζητήσει.
Το να πιστέψετε προϋποθετει να ενεργείτε, να μιλάτε και να σκέφτεστε σαν να το έχετε ήδη αποκτήσει αυτό που ζητήσατε. Όταν εκπέμπετε στη συχνότητα της απόκτησης, ο νόμος της έλξης κινεί ανθρώπους, γεγονότα και καταστάσεις έτσι ώστε εσείς να το αποκτήσετε.
Το να αποκτήσετε, προϋποθέτει να νιώθετε όπως θα νιώσετε όταν πραγματοποιηθεί η επιθυμία σας. Το να αισθάνεστε καλά τώρα σας βάζει στη συχνότητα αυτού που επιθυμείτε.
Για να χάσετε βάρος μην εστιάζετε στην επιθυμία σας για απώλεια βάρους. Αντίθετα, εστιάστε στο ιδανικό βάρος σας. Νιώστε την αίσθηση του ιδανικού βάρους σας και θα το προσελκύσετε.
Το Σύμπαν δε χρειάζεται χρόνο για να υλοποιήσει αυτό που θέλετε. Εϊναι εξίσου εύκολο να υλοποιήσει ένα δολάριο και ένα εκατομμύριο δολάρια.
Το να αρχίσετε με κάτι μικρό όπως ένα φλιτζάνι καφέ ή μια θέση στάθμευσης, είναι ένας εύκολος τρόπος για να βιώσετε το νόμο της έλξης επί τω έργω. Βάλτε σκοπό να προσελκύσετε δυναμικά κάτι μικρό. Βιώνοντας τη δύναμη της έλξης που κρύβετε μέσα σας, θα προχωρήσετε στη δημιουργία πολύ μεγαλύτερων πραγμάτων.
Δημιουργείστε από πριν τη μέρα σας, δημιουργήστε την σκεπτόμενοι πως θέλετε να εξελιχθεί- έτσι θα δημιουργήσετε σκόπιμα και συνειδητά ολόκληρη τη ζωή σας.

Δυναμικές διαδικασίες...

Η προσδοκία ασκεί πανίσχυρη έλξη. Αρχίστε να προσδοκάτε αυτά που θέλετε και πάψτε να προσδοκάτε όσα δε θέλετε.
Η ευγνωμοσύνη είναι ένα πανίσχυρο μέσο για να μετατοπίσετε την ενέργειά σας και να φέρετε στη ζωή σας αυτά που επιθυμείτε. Να είστε ευγνώμονες για όσα ήδη έχετε και θα προσελκύσετε πολλά περισσότερα.
Όταν εκφράζετε προκαταβολικά την ευγνωμοσύνη σας, ενδυναμώνετε τις επιθυμίες σας κι εκπέμπετε στο Σύμπαν ένα πολύ ισχυρότερο σήμα.
Η νοερή απεικόνιση είναι η διαδικασία της δημιουργίας εικόνων στο μυαλό σας. Μέσα από τις εικόνες απολαμβάνετε αυτά που επιθυμείτε. Όταν οπτικοποιείτε κάτι, ενεργοποιείτε τις ισχυρές σκέψεις και το συναίσθημα ότι το έχετε ήδη αποκτήσει. Ο νόμος της έλξης σας επιστρέφει αυτές τις εικόνες ως πραγματικότητα, έτσι ακριβώς όπως τις είχατε οραματιστεί.
Η εφαρμογή του νόμου της έλξης είναι το πλεονέκτημά σας- κάντε το καθημερινή συνήθεια.
Κάθε βράδυ προτού πάτε για ύπνο, αναλογιστείτε ξανά τα γεγονότα της ημέρας. Όποια γεγονότα ή καταστάσεις δεν εξελίχθηκαν όπως θα θέλατε, ξαναπλάστε τα στο μυαλό σας με την ιδανική τους μορφή.

How to make ANYONE fall in love with you!

by Leil Lowndes

TECHNIQUE #1:
DRESS FOR "THE KILL"—EVERYWHERE
Men, this does not mean you have to don your
three-piece suit to buy the newspaper. Women, it does not mean you need to slap on three coats of mascara to walk the dog. What it does mean is whenever you step out the door, step out dressed to kill . . . your Quarry.

TECHNIQUE #2:
STAY PSYCHOLOGICALLY "FIT TO KILL"
Big-game hunters lay bear traps even before they spot the bear. Fishermen cast nets long before the swarm swims their way. If you set your psychological trap the minute your feet hit the floor in the morning, chances are the next big one won't get away.

TECHNIQUE #3:
INTENSE GAZE
When conversing with your Quarry, exaggerate your eye contact. Search for his or her optic nerve. Lock eyes with your Quarry to give the aura of already being in love.

TECHNIQUE #4:
BEDROOM EYES
While chatting with your Quarry, gaze at the most attractive part of his or her face. Your pupils will automatically expand, giving you those bedroom eyes. Also, think loving thoughts. Concentrate on how beautiful your Quarry is, how comfortable you feel with her, how much fun it would be to take a shower with him.

TECHNIQUE #5:
STICKY EYES
Whenever you are talking with your Quarry, let your eyes stay glued to his or hers a little longer—even during the silences. A gaze that stays overtime awakens primal, slightly
disturbing feelings. It induces the same "fight or flight" chemicals that race through our veins when we feel infatuation. When you must look away, do so reluctantly. Drag your eyes away slowly, as though they had been stuck with warm taffy.

TECHNIQUE #6:
A VISUAL VOYAGE
As you and your Quarry are chatting, let your eyes do some traveling—but only on safe territory at first. Take a visual voyage all over his or her face, concentrating mostly on the eyes. If he or she seems to be enjoying your expedition, take small side trips to the neck, shoulders, and torso.
Women, you have a more liberal passport to travel in this territory. Men, be more wary. You're cruising into dangerous seas and can sink the ship if your eyes travel too far south and vacation there too long.

TECHNIQUE #7 (FOR HUNTERS):
MOVE FAST
"Move fast" doesn't mean making a beeline for your Quarry and jumping her bones. It simply means immediately making your presence known by signaling your interest. Here's the best proved method. Make eye contact. Maintain steady eye contact with her and hold it just a tad too long. Smile at her. Make sure your smile is friendly and respectful, not a leering grin or a salacious smirk. Give her a nod. If she returns your gaze within the decisive 45 seconds, nod slightly. The nod reads, "I like you. May I make a reservation to talk with you?" Move within her range. The final step is to move close enough to her to talk.

TECHNIQUE #8 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
MOVE FIRST
Huntresses, when you spot a possible Quarry, do not wait for his approach. Nature decrees that you must make the first move. Use any of the proved ploys. It's as close to jabbing his buttocks with a syringe filled with PEA as you can get.

TECHNIQUE #9:
SOFTEN YOUR QUARRY'S HEART
S is for smile. As you are listening to your Quarry, let a soft smile of acceptance frame your lips.
O is for open body. Face your Quarry fully, nose to nose, belly to belly. Keep your arms open in a relaxed, inviting position.
F is for forward lean. Lean toward your Quarry or stand or sit just a tad too close to show you are physically attracted.
T is for touch. Gently, even "accidentally," touch your Quarry's arm or brush a piece of lint from his or her clothing.
E is for eye contact. Remember to use all four of the eye allure techniques we discussed.
N is for nod. Nod your head gently in response to whatever your Quarry is saying.

TECHNIQUE #10:
EYEBALL CONVERSING
Don't just babble on, oblivious to your Quarry's reactions. Like a top sales pro, watch your prospect carefully and gauge your pitch accordingly. That way, your Quarry is more apt to buy your act.

TECHNIQUE #11:
CHERRY PICKING
You'll never be stuck for good discussions with your Quarry if you pick up on the conversational cherry. Listen for any slightly unusual word. That's your cherry seed. Plant it, and watch it flower into a memorable first conversation for your Quarry.

TECHNIQUE #12:
THE PREMATURE WE
Create the sensation of intimacy with your Quarry even if you've just met minutes before. Scramble the signals in his or her psyche by skipping conversational levels one and two, and cutting right to levels three and four.

TECHNIQUE #13:
EARLY-BIRD DISCLOSURE
If you sense your conversation with a new Quarry is going smoothly, make a minor revelation about yourself. It creates intimacy. Choose some tiny foible and reveal it like a confession, but make sure it's really minor.

TECHNIQUE #14:
NUTSHELL RESUME
Whatever you do in life, wherever you go, don't blow what could be the biggest audition of your life—someone asking, "And what do you do?" Prepare an answer that fits your Quarry's Lovemap, is upbeat and confident, and casts some tasty bait to keep the conversation going.

TECHNIQUE #15
(MORE IMPORTANT FOR HUNTERS):
LET YOUR QUARRY PASS THE AUDITION FIRST
Hunters, don't ask a woman out too soon, lest she think you're only interested in her looks. A woman values your interest all the more if she feels you appreciate her other qualities. Huntresses, you can move a bit faster. Men are less accustomed to being treated as sex objects. In fact, some might enjoy it!

TECHNIQUE #16:
I'M HARD TO GET (BUT, FOR YOU, BABY . . .)
Considering playing hard to get? Don't . . . with him. When he asks you for a date, respond immediately and energetically, "Oh, I'd love to!" But then, later, subtly drop hints that you're hard to get for other men. Be very subtle.

TECHNIQUE #17:
GIVE FIRST-DATE BUTTERFLIES
When planning your first date, find out what pulls your Quarry's strings, then plan an arousing, emotional experience. You don't have to risk life and limb together, but a little early shared anxiety is a proved aphrodisiac. Then, of course, it's nice to have dinner afterward so you can discuss the traumatic experience.

TECHNIQUE #18
(MORE IMPORTANT FOR HUNTRESSES):
FIRST-DATE BONDING
To plant the seeds that you are similar, suggest his favorite interest or activity as a first date.
Remember, to a man bonding is not sitting across a restaurant table looking deeply into your eyes while discussing feelings—it's doing things together.

TECHNIQUE #19 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
"I KNOW A GREAT LITTLE PLACE"
The way to a man's heart is through his stomach—and his wallet. In every woman's little black book should be the name of a fabulous, charming, and inexpensive restaurant.

TECHNIQUE #20 (FOR HUNTERS):
SPRING FOR A NICE RESTAURANT
If you're dining out on your first date, take her to a restaurant with an atmosphere like you want to project: Elegant? Upbeat? Cool? Arty? Atmosphere is important because she'll transfer her feelings about the room to you.

TECHNIQUE #21 (FOR HUNTERS):
P'S AND Q's
Hunters, pick up a copy of Amy Vanderbilt's or Miss Manners' guides. Read it with the same intensity as you'd read How to Satisfy a Woman Every Time and Make Her Beg for More, because when you follow the advice therein, you'll be satisfying two parts of her anatomy—her heart and her brain.

TECHNIQUE #22:
NEVER SAY BUTTERFINGERS
Clever Huntresses overlook their Quarry's minor slips, spills, fumbles, blunders, and faux pas. They obviously ignore raspberries and all other signs of human frailty in their Quarry. Successful Huntresses (and Hunters) never say butterfingers.

TECHNIQUE #23 (FOR HUNTERS):
DRESS AFFLUENTLY
In spite of millions of years of sexual evolution, men and women still approach romance differently. Even when seeking a casual liaison (i.e., a one-night stand), do not go out dressed like an unmade bed. Dress as though you were auditioning to be her husband.

TECHNIQUE #24 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
DRESS ALLURINGLY
Women, the next time you say, "I haven't got a thing to wear," don't worry about it. Any outfit will do as long as it's flattering. He's going to mentally undress you anyway. A smile, good makeup, and receptive body language is far and away your most enticing ensemble.

TECHNIQUE #25:
ECHOING
Early in a budding relationship, you don't know enough about your Quarry to invoke his values, her attitudes, or his interests. But you can hint that you feel just like your Quarry does. Simply listen carefully to the seemingly arbitrary choice of words and echo them back.

TECHNIQUE #26:
COPY THEIR CLASS ACT
Hunters and Huntresses pursuing pedigreed prey should move differently from those stalking a wild cat. The polo-and-port set has a very different body language from the bowling-and-beer crowd. Watch how he walks, how she sits down, how he gestures, how she holds her cup. Then move like the class of your Quarry.

TECHNIQUE #27
(MORE IMPORTANT FOR HUNTRESSES):
RIDE YOUR QUARRY'S WAVES
Ride your Quarry's waves. Or his motorcycle, or his horses, or his golf cart. Tell him you love donning your ski pants, your wet suit, your tracksuit, your karate gis, or your hiking shorts. Or maybe just your couch-potato teddy so you can enjoy a good football game on TV with him. Women want to know that, after making love, there willbe something to talk about with their man. Men want to know that, after making love, there will be something to do with their woman.

TECHNIQUE #28
(MORE IMPORTANT FOR HUNTERS):
CO-REACT
To capture your Quarry's heart, share his or her convictions and show you feel deeply. Watch your Quarry's reactions to outside stimuli, then show the same emotions—shock, disgust, humor, compassion. Say you're in a nightspot and a foolish drunk falls off a bar stool. Watch how your Quarry reacts. Did he laugh? Did she show shock? Did he coolly ignore it? Did she rush over to help the drunk up off the floor? Do the same.

TECHNIQUE #29
(MORE APPROPRIATE FOR HUNTERS):
WHAT IS LOVE?
Hunters, ask your Quarry, either directly or as a philosophical question, how she defines an ideal
relationship. Then love her not the way you think you should love her but the way her ideal partner would love her.

TECHNIQUE #30
(MORE APPROPRIATE FOR HUNTRESSES):
WHAT SHOULD I SAY LOVE IS?
Huntresses, you must find out what tacit assumptions your Quarry has about relationships.
To make your question nonthreatening, tell him one of your young friends or relatives (perhaps a niece or nephew) has asked you what an ideal love relationship should be. Since you don't know how to answer, you are asking his advice: "What do you think I should say the ideal relationship is, hmm?" Then listen. Listen hard.

TECHNIQUE #31:
I GOT JUST WHAT YOU NEED
From time to time, casually ask what qualities your Quarry admired in his or her previous lovers. At a later date, when your Quarry has forgotten you had asked, start hinting at what a hotshot you are in those areas.

TECHNIQUE #32:
BODY PRAISE
When you meet your Quarry, give the subliminal sense that you are irresistibly drawn to him or her through deferential body language. Choose from the earlier selection of eye and body
techniques to express how he or she has captivated you.

TECHNIQUE #33:
EMPLOY EMPATHIZERS
Sprinkle empathetic phrases throughout your conversation with your Quarry. Dust your first discussion with phrases like "I see what you mean," "Yes, you were right," "I can relate to that,'' and the all-time favorite, ''I understand."

TECHNIQUE #34:
KEEP THE SPOTLIGHT ON YOUR QUARRY
Think of your conversation with your Quarry as a giant spotlight. Every time it is shining on your Quarry, he or she is engrossed. If the spotlight revolves around to you or is aimed at someone or something else, your Quarry will find the conversation (and, therefore, you) less
interesting.

TECHNIQUE #35:
TRACKING
Like an air traffic controller, track the tiniest details of your Quarry's life. Refer to them in your conversation like a major news story. When you invoke the last major or minor event in
anyone's life, it confirms what they've known all along. They're the leading character in that riveting novel, My Life. They will love you for recognizing their stardom.

TECHNIQUE #36:
PRIVATE JOKE
To create premature intimacy, listen carefully while your new Quarry is telling a story. Then pick out a phrase that he or she obviously relishes. Caption this favorite passage and repeat it back to your Quarry later in the conversation to make him or her feel very special. You
now share a private joke, just like longtime lovers.

TECHNIQUE #37:
CONFER KUDOS
As the intimacy progresses, add approval notes to your empathizers. Sprinkle your conversation with little phrases like "Good going," "Not bad," and "Hey, that was smart."
Huntresses, don't be bashful. Men eat it up. Hunters, force yourself to give kudos. It's a new skill for you.

TECHNIQUE #38:
THE IMPLIED COMPLIMENT
Pave the path to your Quarry's heart by tucking implied compliments into the secondary parts of your sentences. You can also hint at your exalted opinion of him or her by referring to your Quarry as part of some superior group.

TECHNIQUE #39:
THE BULL'S-EYE COMPLIMENT
Before you fire your first overt compliment, ask yourself, "What is this person most proud of?" Then take precise aim. Also consider timing. You warm your Quarry's heart more by praising a new achievement over an old.

TECHNIQUE #40:
THE KILLER COMPLIMENT
Search for a unique quality in your Quarry, one so deep that most people wouldn't comment on it. Then look your Quarry straight in the eye, use your Quarry's name, and knock his or her socks off with the killer compliment.

TECHNIQUE #41:
SHORT ON ASSETS? GO LONG ON PRAISE
Attractive and accomplished people are accustomed to praise, so compliments often have less value on the open market. Seek original praise for popular Quarry. However, if your Quarry is not used to being praised, he or she is hungry for your words of appreciation, no matter how trite. Feed your Quarry's ego the appropriate diet and watch his or her love grow.

TECHNIQUE #42:
THE KNEE-JERK COMPLIMENT
After your Quarry's accomplishment, compliment immediately. The first syllables you utter must be the flattering answer to the unasked question, "How'd I do?"

TECHNIQUE #43
(ESPECIALLY FOR HUNTRESSES):
HAVE THE FIRST LAUGH
Huntresses, it is with embarrassment that I offer you this obvious technique, but leaving it out would be a grave sin of omission. Be the first to laugh at his jokes, and laugh the longest.
Many a Huntress who had the first laugh when her Quarry made a joke has had the last as she waltzed off to the altar with him.

TECHNIQUE #44:
CONFER PET-NAME STATUS
If it's appropriate, ask your Quarry what he or she was called as a kid. If you sense that your Quarry likes that pet name, say, "Oh, I love it! Do you mind if I call you that?"

TECHNIQUE #45:
BOOMERANGING
When your Quarry compliments you or asks you about anything you enjoy talking about, boomerang the good feelings back. Thank him or her for asking or noticing. Stamp out
childish embarrassment and let your big smile show your Quarry you appreciated the compliment.

TECHNIQUE #46:
SPOCKING
Think about the subtle, maybe even silly, things you love about your significant other. Then, at odd moments, tell him or her what those things are. Your partner is not a mind reader. More than just saying "I love you," you need to tell why.

TECHNIQUE #47 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
MOVE LIKE A 10
Can you fool Mother Nature? No. But you can fool a man. Convince yourself that you are the most beautiful creature that ever graced the planet. Then move accordingly.

TECHNIQUE #48 (FOR HUNTERS):
MOVE LIKE A HUNK
Men, make strong, smooth, bold movements. Walk strong. Look like you know where you're going and why. Take the woman's arm when crossing the street, help her in and out of cars, and make other manly gestures that women find so seductive.

TECHNIQUE #49:
MIRROR, MIRROR, ON THE WALL
To dramatically increase your chances of success with new Quarry, only pursue prey within one or two points' difference on the attractiveness scale. This technique also ups the odds on lifetime happiness with your partner.

TECHNIQUE #50:
LET YOUR RAGS SHOW RICHES
Gentlemen, go for one handmade suit. Make sure your tailor is expert in the delightfully arcane details of flaps, vents, lapels, and stitching. Ladies, you can dress off the rack, but make sure the
rack has a recognizable designer's name over it. When chasing costly Quarry, make sure nothing adorns your body that costs less than $100, with the possible exceptions of your socks and undies.

TECHNIQUE #51:
LET YOUR TONGUE SHOW RICHES
To trap pedigreed prey, you needn't collect upper-class words and memorize them, but do cut the euphemisms. (Don't forget to use the Echoing technique. It will save you from making many faux pas.)

TECHNIQUE #52:
THE SOUND OF CLASS
The secret to a well-heeled tongue is, quite simply, to pronounce all of your syllables and finish every word that issues forth from your mouth.

TECHNIQUE #53:
DON'T ASK "WHAT DO YOU DO?"
Develop an ear for appropriate topics of conversation. Pedigreed and other prestigious prey have very sensitive toes. You don't want to go around stomping on them. Above all, avoid the favorite party question, "And, what do you do?" It tags you as so working class.

TECHNIQUE #54:
YOUR PERSONAL THESAURUS
To convey a rich background, choose rich words from the thesaurus. Like a beautiful necklace, try them on, then let them fall, like pearls, from your lips while chatting with your prestigious prey.

TECHNIQUE #55:
UP YOUR ANTE IN INTANGIBLES
To up your market value, never stop learning, never stop developing your personality and social skills, and always strive to develop fine inner qualities. They are as good as golden bullets to pierce your Quarry's heart.

TECHNIQUE #56:
LET HIM OR HER DO FAVORS FOR YOU
Let your Quarry do little favors for you and give you gifts. Thank him or her, but don't appear too grateful. Act as though it is perfectly logical for your Quarry to be putting himself or herself out for you. To restore cognitive consistency, your Quarry will be convinced that he or she must really love you.

TECHNIQUE #57 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
BRUSH UP ON MAN-TALK
Take a conversational cruise across the gender gap. Huntresses, become conversant in concepts, politics, objects, big toys, sports, and other male subjects. Show him you're smart, but remember—not too smart.

TECHNIQUE #58 (FOR HUNTERS):
BRUSH UP ON "WOMAN-TALK"
Hunters, make your conversation more psychologically oriented. Converse with your Quarry in terms of people, feelings, philosophy, rationale, and intuition. Be more supportive and less competitive in your insights.

TECHNIQUE #59 (FOR HUNTERS):
"HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THAT?"
Hunters, whatever she is discussing, simply ask, "How do you feel about that?" Go ahead, force yourself. After she pulls her jaw back up to get it operable, she will respond enthusiastically.

TECHNIQUE #60 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
DON'T EXPLORE ''FEELINGS'' TOO EARLY IN A RELATIONSHIP
Huntresses, until the relationship is in safe waters or you detect that your Quarry is the sensitive type, don't go overboard by asking a man how he feels about a situation. You may rock the boat before it gets launched.

TECHNIQUE #61 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
STAY LOST!
Huntresses, if your Quarry gets lost, bite your tongue until it bleeds if you must, but do not suggest he ask for directions. Never take it upon yourself to ask a stranger yourself
while he sits there feeling like a larnebrain. Never.

TECHNIQUE #62 (FOR HUNTERS):
JUST ASK!
Hunters, if you get lost, do the lady a favor. Lock your ego in the glove compartment along with the maps. Just roll down the window and ask directions. It won't kill you.

TECHNIQUE #63 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
JUST THE FACTS, MA'AM
Huntresses, when stalking and talking with male Quarry, keep your explanations short. Shave down the details. If you want to extend the dialogue and switch into a more personal mode, try a little veiled compliment.

TECHNIQUE #64 (FOR HUNTERS):
PAINT A PRETTY PICTURE
Hunters, instead of worrying about how you can score with a great line when you meet a woman, simply flesh out whatever you are saying. Elaborate, and share interesting details. If she likes your looks, she will love hearing about how something looked, sounded, or seemed. Paint a pretty picture for her to enjoy.

TECHNIQUE #65 (FOR HUNTERS):
TELL ME ABOUT IT
Hunters, when your Quarry is upset, beg her to tell you about it. Then listen—like a woman listens. It makes you a more loving man in your Quarry's eyes.

TECHNIQUE #66 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
WHEN HE'S MAD, STAY MUTE
Huntresses, if your male Quarry is upset about something that has nothing to do with you, do not smoke him out of his foxhole. Do not make him feel guilty for not telling you about it.
Let him know you're there if he wants to share, but give him the freedom to burrow in his foxhole until he is ready to crawl out all by himself.

TECHNIQUE #67 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
DON'T HINT-SAY IT STRAIGHT
Huntresses, realize that your Quarry will take your questions literally. When you want something, say "I want" or "I'd like to." When you really mean I, avoid phrases like "Would you like to" or "Do you think we should . . .?"

TECHNIQUE #68 (FOR HUNTERS):
PUT SOME SOFT CURVES IN YOUR CONVERSATION
Hunters, instead of telling her what the two of you are going to do, ask her opinion first. Also, when your Quarry asks you a question, don't take it literally. Read between the lines to see what she's hinting at. When she asks, "Would you like to," it probably means she would like to.

TECHNIQUE #69 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
ZIP YOUR LIP AND LET HIM BOTCH IT ALL BY HIMSELF
Huntresses, when your Quarry is doing something for you, even if he's bungling it beyond belief, zip your lip. Unless it's a matter of life and death, force an appreciative smile. Run outside where he can't hear you if you have to scream, "Stuuuuuupid, do it this way!"

TECHNIQUE #70 (FOR HUNTERS):
UNZIP YOUR LIP AND LEND A HELPING HAND
Hunters, when you see a woman struggling, go to her and ask if she would like your help. Unlike your male buddies, she will not assume you don't trust her to do it herself. She will interpret your help as caring about her and her problems.

TECHNIQUE #71 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
ASK WOULD NOT COULD
Huntresses, this is subtle stuff indeed, but say would instead of could when asking your Quarry for favors. When he hears could, the competitive beast hears a challenge to his experitise, not a request for his valuable services.

TECHNIQUE #72 (FOR HUNTERS):
I'M SORRY
Hunters, when you mess up, simply have the courage to say "I'm sorry." When you see how your Quarry warms to you, you won't be sorry you said it.

TECHNIQUE #73 (FOR HUNTERS):
LEARN STEAMY SENSUALITY FROM LADY PORN
Hunters, there's a new breed of woman out there, and she's letting the world know what's hot—and what's not—for her between the sheets. To drive your Quarry wild in bed, trash your men's triple-X movies. You won't learn anything from those but misinformation you already have. Pop some films by female artistes in your VCR. Then take copious notes.

TECHNIQUE #74 (FOR HUNTERS):
READ A HARLEQUIN ROMANCE
Yes, Hunters, I'm serious. You may chuckle, guffaw, gag, roll your eyes, or double up on the floor choking with laughter, but twenty-five million females can't be faking that they like this stuff.
Try it. You may not like it. However, you'll love her reaction when you try some of the techniques that Raphael, Beau, Felipe, Rigg, Sky, Dunstan, Tuck, Kael, Cagney, and other exotic Harlequin Hunters use to trap their Quarry.

TECHNIQUE #75 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
LEARN "RAW SEX" FROM MEN'S FLICKS
Huntresses, you may laugh (you may also turn green and gag), but study men's porno flicks to pickup some hints on raw sex. Men spend millions of dollars annually to see hot women lusting after the male body in such films. You don't have to go overboard and act like you'd have
an orgasm if your Quarry so much as kissed you, but, to make him fall in love with you, a little lust wouldn't hurt.

TECHNIQUE #76 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
READ THEIR RAGS
Huntresses, read a few men's magazines. You'll find the hot letters from hot readers of special interest. If what goes in those letters is not precisely true, it's the best documentation of male wishful thinking ever printed.

TECHNIQUE #77 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
WHAT TURNS YOU ON?
Huntresses, purr mysteriously about how you like imaginative sex. Tell him a story like Alicia's, then, with a mischievous little grin on your face, ask him, "What turns you on?" His answer could be the golden egg guaranteed to get his goose . . . and get him to fall in love with you.

TECHNIQUE #78 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
THE HOT PURR RESPONSE
How should you respond when you get your Quarry talking about sex? An approving moan, a hot purr, and perhaps a naughty smile punctuated by a little licking of your lips is what
X-rated Miss Manners suggests.

TECHNIQUE #79:
THE X-RATED INTERVIEW
As he's telling you what really turns him on, keep your Quarry talking, and talking, and talking.
Pretend you're a TV hostess interviewing a movie star on his latest film. Ask your Quarry every conceivable question about his hot fantasies. Punctuate his answers by purring, twinkling your eyes, moaning, licking your lips, and giving him other subtle signs of approval.

TECHNIQUE #80 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
TRIGGER WORDS
Listen carefully when your Quarry has shed his inhibitions and is talking about sex. Does he say woman, female, lady, chick, girl, doll, babe? To turn him on, be erotically correct, not politically correct. When he's feeling erotic, does he refer to your breasts, boobs, titties, knockers, kajoobies? If you want to turn up the heat, forget your ladylike euphemisms during sex. Use whatever words he uses.

TECHNIQUE #81:
BED RAP
Huntresses, remember all the details of his answer when you asked him, "What turns you on?"
Bring those sexual fantasies into bed with the two of you. Make up bedtime stories for him. Be his own private 900-number especially when it counts—during sex.

TECHNIQUE #82 (MORE FOR HUNTERS):
RELATIONSHIP TRIGGER WORDS
First, ask her "What is love?" to find out how your Quarry would most like to be loved.
While she is answering you, listen carefully for trigger words. Do not use them immediately, but when it comes time to say "I love you," weave in these special words.

TECHNIQUE #83 (FOR HUNTERS):
NO LOOKEE-DISHEE
Hunters, to win the heart of your Quarry, don horse blinders whenever you're with her. Keep your eyeballs on a strict diet. In fact, pray that a dazzling dish walks your way just so
you can prove to your Quarry how oblivious you are to other women—how you only have eyes for your own fair lady.

TECHNIQUE #84 (FOR HUNTRESSES):
LOOKEE-DISHEE
Huntresses, point out attractive women to your Quarry to give him permission to look at them. Say things like, "Now, there's a woman with style," or even, "Wow, is she pretty, or what?"
If he's smart, your Quarry will probably protest and mumble something about how you are better-looking. But then he'll have his guilt-free gander, and you'll have a
much happier goose.

TECHNIQUE #85:
WHO NOSE?
Don't expect your Quarry to fall nose over heels in love with you just because of your scent. However, since pheromones play an important role in animal erotica, cover your bets. Give your relationship an olfactory boost by letting your Quarry choose your perfume or aftershave for you.